Whether you have come across crystals from the recent social media hype which sparks your interest in them or they’ve been a part of your life for some time, it’s hard to imagine how they can support you on your parenting journey, you may not necessarily turn to them consciously as a parent.
Wearing or holding crystals does not automatically result in parenting becoming easy (if only). They can, however, act as an additional support system or a sensory or visual aid for you as a parent during what is often a period of transformation, challenges and change, especially as a mum.
I always knew I would adopt a much more mindful parenting style once I had kids, primarily driven by being brought up by a single parent, living within a culture and society that did not take mental health or a child’s voice and needs into much consideration. However, I usually find myself tortured by mum guilt or convincing myself I'm not a good enough mum - the intrusive thoughts are such a hindrance!
Whatever your choice of parenting style, having additional tools to help you implement and learn from can only be a plus.
Crystals won't judge you or try to give you unhelpful advice!
Read on to discover techniques and crystals that may help you on your parenting journey.
Please note, I speak from my own experience and as a qualified Crystal and Spiritual Healer. I am not trained in the field of working directly with children and parents, my views and opinions are my own and I too seek help from professionals such as GP’s, specialists, and Therapists to help me during this stage of my life.
With any form of healing or wanting to consciously improve your situation, be it physical/mental health or your surroundings, the work starts with YOU.
It is worth taking a moment to think about the areas you feel you need support in, are they within your control and if not, what does ‘ideal’ look like?
Now that you have explored your mind, let's learn how to address it using crystals or healing techniques.
Clearing with CRYSTALS
To address your most pressing worries/fears (point 4 from above) regarding parenting at a deeper level, you need to remove the negative energy surrounding them first. This is where the practice of CLEARING comes in. Shining light on your darkest thoughts starts the process of clearing negativity but also helps you to identify what requires your energy and what does not.
Wearing or holding your clearing crystal allows you to work through the dense negative energy that sits with your worries/fears or past trauma. As a parent, a lot of this comes from your own childhood.
If you are consciously trying to change the way you parent your own child, clearing the negativity that you may be carrying is a great place to start. After a particularly tough day as a parent, clearing away any dense, negative energy helps you to accept that today was heavy but tomorrow can be better or different. The more dense energy you carry to the next day, the heavier your load becomes, your stress cup gets too full and your ability to handle a new tough situation can tip you over the edge.
PEARL
This gem of the ocean has the power to clear negative energy and place you in a flowing state of being. Just like the stride of the waves, constant movement ensures you are not holding onto any energy that doesn't serve you well.
AMETHYST
Clearing your energy at a deeper level, connecting to your profound spiritual side and welcoming a level of energetic protection, Amethyst can do it all. It reminds you of your inner beauty and strength and that you are not alone in this spiritual world.
Clearing without CRYSTALS
At the end of each day, or each time you get a moment to yourself to finally take that quick shower (mum life is hard) , you can use this visualisation technique to help clear all that dense energy built up throughout the day.
As the water washes over you, see white light surrounding your aura. Ask it to clear away any dense, negative energy. To help wash your fears and worries away and to replace them with light and strength to carry on. Always remember to see a GOLDEN light around you before you finish. This technique is POWERFUL yet SIMPLE. You can pass it on to your children, as they grow and make their journey out into the world, learning to deal with their emotions, clearing away negativity can be very empowering for them.
Communication with CRYSTALS
This is an important one to focus on. Learning to communicate with yourself (be kinder, don’t succumb to the negative narrative that mothers, in particular, find themselves exposed to), your partner (parenting is a team effort), family/friends and most importantly YOUR CHILD. Whether you are a team or a single parent, have a village or doing it alone, COMMUNICATION is key.
Learning to firstly, be kind to yourself, if you wouldn’t let someone talk down to your child then why accept it when you do it to yourself or let society do the same to you?
Asking for help, this is the biggest struggle mothers find themselves experiencing. You are not failing if you reach out, in fact it should be encouraged, we all know ‘if you don’t ask you don’t get’. Usually your ability to communicate effectively is blocked by fear of rejection, feeling let down or admitting you need help. The crystals below can help empower you to speak up, be OK with the fear of rejection and to know you deserve to be listened to, your thoughts and worries are VALID and you too require reassurance. The better you feel in this space the easier it will be to pass these qualities on to your children.
TURQUOISE
A wise and knowledgeable crystal that can support you through change and transformation. Perfect to help you trust and use your voice to communicate effectively with purpose and meaning.
LABRADORITE
Bring back the MAGIC! To be able to connect to that confident, empowered and vocal person you were or can be, let Labradorite help you expand your energy, ask for what you want without FEAR and know you are WORTHY and MATTER.
Communication without CRYSTALS
As a parent, your energetic state is going through a huge change. You can become fragile, stress, worry and using your energy to care for another can negatively impact your ability to communicate effectively. STRENGTHENING your energy field is crucial, this means you are only taking on energy that is to your highest good. You will in turn be able to communicate clearly, take charge of your own needs and ensure your stress cup is manageable.
Visualise yourself surrounded by a GOLDEN egg of light. Make sure the light goes above your head, beneath your feet and expands at least one meter out. Say the affirmation 'ONLY energy for my highest good can enter and exit my energy field'. You can do this at any point in the day, add a quick breathing technique (3 deep breaths in, release any worries/fears/tension on the exhale). Practicing this on a regular basis will help you build up a strong energetic field allowing you to communicate during difficult situations even if you can't change the situation itself.
Love and nurturing with CRYSTALS
Lastly, we will focus on LOVE, one of the most common feelings mothers experience is loving themselves less as the focus moves onto caring and loving their children. To be able to fully love and nurture others you need to offer these feelings to YOURSELF first. Giving love to your inner child - acknowledging their feelings is key to moving forward as a new parent. Past trauma, how you were parented can all impact how much you love and nurture yourself once you become a parent.
ROSE QUARTZ & AVENTURINE
Rose Quartz works at the heart level to bring a loving, nurturing and feminine energy. Aventurine brings stability and confidence at a heart level evoking the masculine energy. Bringing these two energies together creates balance and stability in your life - only then can you prioritise what serves you well and remove what no longer does.
Love and nurturing without CRYSTALS
Each time you find yourself loving yourself less or lost as a result of using up all your energy in caring for your child/children you can consciously bring back the attention to yourself.
Place a hand on your heart. Take a deep breath in, and allow your heart center to open up. This energy is so powerful. It's within YOU. See a beautiful pink or green light surrounding you. Say these affirmations to yourself:
I LOVE MYSELF DEEPLY
I AM WRAPPED IN MOTHERLY LOVE
I FORGIVE MYSELF FOR NOT LOVING EVERY PART OF ME
I AM RESPONSIBLE FOR MY OWN HAPPINESS
I AM LOVE, I AM LOVED
If you have made it this far, thank you - I hope you can take something away from this BLOG and feel empowered with or without CRYSTALS and know you are doing a great job as a parent, it is TOUGH and not EASY, your feelings are VALID and this is a safe space to explore your emotions and be guided by the healing power of crystals and visualisation.
How to use crystals to help you connect to the state you feel needs the most attention? Explore the website or book a healing with me, we can discuss your current energetic state, your goals for your mental well-being and how we can get you there in a supported and guided way.
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